Marshall &Kay Family  Histories

Yvonne KAY Marshall

talks of her Mother

Mary INGHAM/aka Grandma Mary

 

I don't know as much about my mother's growing up years, as I was told about my father's growing up years. And I didn't really know a lot about either one, and all the little things that happened to them. I do know that her father was either the bishop or in the bishopric for many years. He and his wife were very active in the church and raised their family in the church(Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints). But my cousin and I, Maureen Perona, Aunt Alta's daughter, used to kind of wonder about it. Because it seemed like none of the girls had very big testimonies, and we used to wonder how that happened. It just seemed strange to us. I don't know about my Uncle Ward. He married a very active Mormon girl and they remained active all throughout their married years. My uncle Ward got married in the temple, and so did my mother and my Aunt Dot, but none of the others did. Mother's parents were married in the temple. They were from the pioneers that came across the plains at the time Brigham Young came across on both sides. Mother's grandmother was a Pack, and mother's father,was an Ingham. Both of those families were early converts to the church. Apparently fairly active. The Pack side remained very active, most of them throughout church history. 

 

 

 INGHAM FAMILY

History Background

 

The Ingham side, it would appear, that her grandparents were converted in England and joined the church and came over. And whether they were married just before they were converted or just after, isn't clear to me at this time. But they were married very close to the time they left England to come to the United States. Because their first baby was born on the plains of Wyoming, as they crossed the plains to come to Utah. And they came and settled down in the Salt Lake area. Her father was the second child, the first and second children were both boys. Both of these older boys remained active and raised their families in the church. But apparently something happened ,and I don't think anybody knows what happened. Not anything that I know of that was ever discovered. But somehow mother's Ingham grandparents became very hurt with the church. Something happened either with an individual or with the ward, something, they became very hurt with the church. Sometime after their first few children were born they stopped coming to church. But the two older boys continued to go to church and to be active, but none of the other children were. And they were a big family. And as the two older boys grew up into adulthood they apparently asked their parents questions about their ancestors with temple work in mind, and their parents would not give them any information. So as a result for a long time, no one knew anything about the parents that were left behind in England. And to this day I don't think they know where they lived in England, or the port that they sailed from. They wouldn't tell them anything. I guess the feeling against the church stayed very bitter. And so some genealogy had been able to be done on that Ingham side, but not much. Because there's so little information known. 

 

But my mother's father, was one of those two boys, like I said he remained very active and raised her family in the church, and mother can remember having to go to church all her life. They lived right in Salt Lake City. In fact some years ago we drove by the house where my mother was raised right in the middle of Salt Lake City. She always seemed to have had good feelings when she talked about her parents whenever she talked about them. When she spoke of her mother she seemed to like her, but I don't know how close they were because she never talked to me about it, (that seemed to be more of a sibling conversation). I think she was close to her sisters, especially her oldest sister, Madeline. Madeline seemed to have helped raise a lot of the younger ones. When she spoke of Madeline it wasn't so much Madeline liked her, as she liked Madeline. And I don't know how close she was to some of the others. I think she and her brother were close as they were growing up, because she talked about that. Maureen and I used to wonder about this. There didn't seem to be a tremendous amount of physical affection between them in that family. We thought well maybe that was just the English way, and maybe it is. I know that I had trouble apparently, as I was growing up, being physically affectionate. Not that it wasn't offered to me, but I apparently didn't desire it so much, or something like that. So maybe it's just a trait, I'm not sure, ya know.

 

 

KAY FAMILY

Personality Traits

 

My father's family(Kay's) was more physically affectionate, they were also more physically volatile, more animated. As I think of my Aunt Janet, his sister that was just older than he was. She was one of these people who were either up or down, and she was very vocal. I always knew she loved me, but at the same time if I had done something wrong, I always knew I was really going to get in trouble. She was really going to spank me hard, and she used a little switch on me sometimes, on all of us, and sometimes even a belt. Aunt Janet had a very, very quick temper - she had a strong temper. She was famous for that temper of hers. One minute she was very, very loving, but she had those two sides to her - loving personality, but quick temper. I don't remember my father ever having an uncontrollable temper, but Aunt Janet did. And you never knew what she was going to say. She would say some of the craziest things sometimes. It was kind of like if you were visiting my Aunt Janet you just didn't know what kind of information you were going to come away with because there were no secrets. And if she thought something, no matter how wild it was, she said it. But everyone kind of got used to that, that was her.